Stopping Witches From Starting Witch Hunts

STARE UGLY IN THE FACE/STOP UGLY IN ITS TRACKS
A Katty Story

"You know when someone tells you something ugly? You know, when they say something like, 'You know that girl, Holly? Isn't she ugly.' You know it's nasty. You know that person is looking for a reply. Well, this is what you do . . . you just stand there and you look directly at the person that is saying such a thing. You look right at them, completely expressionless. Completely expressionless, like this . . . ," Kathleen demonstrated the look. It was a blank look. Indeed, it was expressionless. Perhaps not a Mona Lisa look. That look is associated with a type of smile. Kathleen stood stoically. There was no expression on her face. It wasn't a glare, but it certainly was not a simple glance. She stood firm and she just stared into my eyes. Without expression. After a brief pause, a moment of silence, she continued, "I just did that with my sister. You know how she likes to talk about people. Well, that's just what I did." I completely forget what Kathleen said just after that because suddenly a thought was triggered in my mind. I just had to blurt it out, right then and there, "You know I have this para that works with me, her name is Ellen. Ellen always says, 'God don't like ugly'." "That's it," Kathleen declared, "God don't like ugly! Don't you think this is a really good way to stop ugliness in its tracks?"



PROVERBS 26:
20 Where there is no wood, the fire goes out and where there is no slanderer the contention grows still.
21 As charcoal for the embers and wood for the fire, so is a contentious man for causing a quarrel to glow.






FUN WITH VOCABULARY
The words glare and glance are both used as verbs in this story
See the entries for each word in The Free Online Dictionary

Glare : http://www.thefreedictionary.com/glare
Glance: http://www.thefreedictionary.com/glance


Glare v.
1. To stare fixedly and angrily. See Synonyms at gaze.
2. To shine intensely and blindingly: A hot sun glared down on the desert.
3. To be conspicuous; stand out obtrusively: The headline glared from the page.
v.tr.
To express by staring angrily: He glared his disapproval.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved

Glance v.
To direct the gaze briefly: glance at the menu; glanced in the rearview mirror.
To look quickly at something
Collins Essential English Dictionary 2nd Edition 2006 © HarperCollins Publishers 2004, 2006

CHALLENGE YOURSELF
Challenge yourself to add a new word to your vocabulary. Find one word that you may have heard or seen but have no idea its meaning and set out to learn it for yourself. Find ways to use your new vocabulary word in your everyday conversations with friends and family.












DEWEY CLASSIFICATIONS
155.232, 158.2
133.43 Witches, Wizards,


LC SUBJECT HEADINGS
Entitlement attitudes
Assertiveness (Psychology)
Interpersonal communication.
Interpersonal relations.
Self-preservation
Empathy
Aura
Intuition
Success -- Psychological aspects
Success -- Social aspects
Self-esteem
Motivation (Psychology)
United States -- Social conditions -- 21st century.
Disappointment
Charisma (Personality trait)
Control (Psychology)
Love -- Psychological aspects
Negotiation
Interpersonal relations.
Interpersonal communication.
Psychology, Industrial.




FURTHER READING


Kent, Zachary. The story of the Salem witch trials.
Simon Jr., George K. In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People.

The power of a positive no : how to say no and still get to yes / Wiliam Ury. New York : Bantam Books, c2007. xii, 257 p. : ill. ; 22 cm.
Negotiation -- Handbooks, manuals, etc.

The art of speedreading people : harness the power of personality type and create what you want in business and in life / by Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger. Boston : Little, Brown, 1998. x, 208 p. ill. ; 24 cm.Interpersonal communication.
Behavioral assessment.
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator.

Why can't you shut up? : how we ruin relationships-- how not to / Anthony E. Wolf.
New York : Ballantine Books, c2006. xvi, 168 p. ; 24 cm.
Interpersonal relations.
Interpersonal communication.

Dealing with people you can't stand : how to bring out the best in people at their worst / Rick Brinkman, Rick Kirschner. New York : McGraw-Hill, c1994. xvii, 199 p. : ill. ; 24 cm.

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family by Eleanor Payson

The relationship cure : a five-step guide for building better connections with family, friends, and lovers by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire.

Social intelligence : the new science of human relationships by Daniel Goleman.

How to be a people magnet! : finding friends and lovers and keeping them for life by Leil Lowndes. by Lowndes, Leil.

100 Simple secrets of healthy people : what scientists have learned and how you can use it by David Niven.

Coping with difficult people by Robert M. Bramson. by Bramson, Robert M.

People skills : how to assert yourself, listen to others, and resolve conflicts by Robert Bolton.

Working with emotional intelligence by Daniel Goleman.

Time management from the inside out : the foolproof system for taking control of your schedule--and your life by Julie Morgenstern.

Managing your mind : the mental fitness guide by Gillian Butler, Tony Hope.

Principle-centered leadership by Stephen R. Covey.

Raising your emotional intelligence : a practical guide by Jeanne Segal.

The fifth discipline : the art and practice of the learning organization by Peter M. Senge.

Executive EQ : emotional intelligence in leadership and organizations by Robert K. Cooper and Ayman Sawaf.